Wednesday, August 13, 2025

Bringing About A Change and Journeying to Stormy Seas

 

Watching the wheels of life pass by, I realised that in less than 5 months, I will have reached my sixty-fifth birthday. Now, for those who don’t know me, I have always complained in between telling stories of my children growing up, the unfair balance of time that has gone by, and how it happened so fast.

 Sadly, my childhood was a time I would have instead let pass by. My starting point most thought was my time in the Navy, or my time working at the NDP caucus office in Regina, neither of which is true. My early twenties were but a host of indecision and painful anxiety. I didn’t know in the slightest what I wanted to do, or which direction was up or down. It would probably be fair to say I was lost in a sea of racing thoughts, and the desperate need to take charge of a life out of control and out of my hands.

A critical decision had to be made: either relocate to an environment conducive to effective evaluation and management of my situation or accept the ongoing risk of remaining in an ambiguous and unsatisfactory state. My journey began in earnest at the intersection of Elizabeth and Bay Street in Toronto, where I arrived with a typewriter secured to my backpack and a cigarette in hand. As I observed the bus departing for the prairies, which I had left behind, I recognised the significance of this pivotal moment.

My Editor was the next person to approach me, having spent approximately fifteen minutes searching for me throughout the bus terminal before discovering me observing my new environment. This marked a significant transition: I was now responsible for myself as I embarked on this new chapter of my life. While this change brought about understandable anxieties, I recognised that it was now up to me alone to address them.  

Adapting to a new situation presented significant challenges; however, Father Joe and Our Place provided valuable support during difficult times. Subsequently, Karen invited me to share my life with hers, marking a transformative period. As our family grew, ongoing adjustments were necessary, and my priorities shifted from personal interests to the well-being of my loved ones. For thirty-seven years, I dedicated myself to what many consider to be a profoundly meaningful undertaking, placing other pursuits on hold.

This morning, as my daughter Sarah left the house to return to her job as a reporter, and Karen left to go to work at the hospital, I was left alone to work on my blog, edit video content, and make changes to the radio station. Upon looking in the mirror, those same feelings I felt in 1985 of being in a life out of control and totally out of my hands began to resurface with all the same anxieties that went with it.

While relaxation and leisure are often recommended at this stage, such approaches do not resonate with my disposition. During these times, I am inclined to reflect on advice, especially that which Father Joe might have provided. Remaining idle is an option; however, I am continuously reminded of experiences from years past.

 My backpack, laptop, and digital equipment stand by as I determine the appropriate moment to proceed. This juncture marks a new chapter in my life, and I am prepared to move forward with purpose.

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